Q. If God wants a relationship with us, then why does He hide from us? God’s silence and absence, not to mention zero prayers answered, are giant stumbling blocks for me. Blocks that only God can remove. Thanks and God bless you, in Jesus’ holy name, Amen.
Let me say first that I sympathize deeply with your situation. I am sorry for the frustration, disappointment, and sense of abandonment that I hear you expressing. As a pastor, I had occasion to counsel with others in similar situations, and I have seen how painful it is and how challenging it is to continue to have faith when God seems absent.
But next let me share an observation. I have been catching up on the questions that were submitted to this blog during the time when I was unable to respond to them, and I note with interest that the other question I answered today, about the ways in which God speaks to us, arrived right around the same time as yours. I hope you appreciate that I don’t say this in any way unsympathetic to your situation, but I wonder whether the other question might have some bearing on yours. Specifically, might you be expecting God to speak to you in a certain way, and while God may not be speaking in that way, might God be speaking to you in some other way? I suggest this respectfully and hopefully for your consideration.
Beyond that, I would also suggest that you could see God as present and speaking through the very desire you feel for God to be present and speak to you. You could see that desire itself as an expression of God’s work in your heart and life. I hope that is also a hopeful thought.
I admire your acknowledgement that in the end, you must and do depend on God himself to resolve the difficulties you are experiencing. It has been said that simply in order to ask a question, we need to know at least part of the answer. And I think you ask your question, honestly and painfully, out of an awareness that God does indeed want to have a relationship with us. I hope you will see that awareness as well as something that God has given to you.
I also hope that you have Christian friends who can walk through this struggle with you and compassionate church leaders whom you can confide in and who will counsel with you. Personally I get from your question not a sense of hopelessness but a sense of hopefulness. I hear someone speaking who deeply desires a relationship with God and who is depending on God to remove everything in the way of that. May you indeed find that God grants this desire and brings you to a place of peace and joy in experiencing his presence and hearing him speak to you.
Good Question 
I’m sorry, but it doesn’t seem to me that you actually answered the question. I mean, why would God give a desire for a relationship when the most effort he’s putting in is making us want a relationship? I’ve begged God for years to show me what he wants from me, but all he’s done is let my grandpa die without giving me a chance to say goodbye. I’ve prayed for help, guidance, a sign he’s there, even just help accepting his silence, but he doesn’t respond, not even a “no”, and each time I’m ignored it just gets harder to try again. I’m so frustrated that I’ve cussed him out over this. I don’t want to be angry, but there’s no help. I can’t make myself pray anymore, it’s too defeating when I don’t even believe I’m heard anymore. And please don’t say “just have more faith”, that’s all anyone says, well I’m completely tapped out on faith, and if I could magically conjure up more then I wouldn’t be asking a stranger online for help. I’ve been told to read Job, so I did, it didn’t help.
I appreciate you reaching out. That says to me that you haven’t given up, despite your disappointments. It was an act of faith. I hope and pray that you will be able to make the connection with God that you so desire.
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Jonathan, I can relate entirely. It’s been 45+ years of absolutely nothing from/of God or Jesus in my life. Unless you count silence, absence, broken promises, and unanswered prayers as something from/of God or Jesus. I agree that even a “no” would be be enough. This “nothingness” from/of God or Jesus is heartbreaking, soul crushing torture. I pray, nothing. I read my Bible, nothing. I just talk to (not with) God and Jesus daily, nothing. How am I supposed to believe that God and Jesus care about and love me when they never do anything? Life is not worth living when when you are ignored by God and Jesus.
God bless you through the Holy Spirit, in Jesus holy name, Amen.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I would say to you, as I said to the person who originally asked this question, that I sympathize deeply with your situation. I would also say to you, as I said to him, that I hear someone speaking who deeply desires a relationship with God. So may you indeed find one day that God grants this desire and brings you to a place of peace and joy in experiencing his presence and hearing him speak to you.
Thank you for your response. It is greatly appreciated.
God bless you.